Love deeply and ardently, even if there is pain, this is the way to make your life complete.
Me? I am a fun loving Chinese girl who has a fun loving Indian husband. We and our friends together are exploring the world and the meaning of life :)
Finally back to Berkeley. Sigh... how cool the weather here, around 20 degrees, always sunny, blue sky, big trees, squirrels and deers are alive, jumping here and there carrying no fear of being eaten or made to Chinese traditional medecine and hand bags...
After almost a month's adventure in China, riding bike again in the streets of Berkeley seems so cherishing, at least, we are back in two whole pieces.
Called Amanda's home since her cell already being switched off for the trip to Canada, Mrs. Bradshaw picked up, she literally laughed to the ground while listening to my description of our summer trip.
"Ya, we lost our passports on the first day first hour after arriving in China. Raj gave me his passport, so both of our passports were in my small handbag, I left the handbag on the back seat of the taxi, we didn't remember the name of the taxi driver, didn't even get a receipt. You know, I was too exhausted and too nervous about everything in my own country, and of course, carrying too many luggages."
"bhahahhaha, you guys are crazy."
"Ya, we were stuck there in China and it was so hot, around 100 degrees. We stayed in Guangzhou for getting a new passport and exit visa to Raj, I showed Raj some cities while waiting for Raj's new visa, it was so tiring all the time, we keep sweating the whole trip, now we are both very black and thin."
"bhahahahha, you guys are miserable !!"
"Oh, I also brought Raj to my hometown to show to my parents... my dad said, Raj is indeed a well educated, good mannered, promising young guy, the only thing is, his skin color is a bit too dark..."
"bhahahahah, Mo, this is a good one !!"
"Ohya, since we were not able to take flight (no identities) , I took Raj into some Chinese crowded trains, they were soo crowded, the government sold us this type of tickets (called standing tickets) with no seat, so we had no seat !! We spent 15, 16 hours each journey standing or sitting on the ground with other Chinese sitting, eating, sleeping, spitting and throwing garbage on the ground..."
"bhahahahha, Mo, you guys were really miserable !!"
We also met Debu Da, from Raj, the China trip looks like this:
"China looks so so so rich, much richer than India. All western brand good/ luxury cars in the street, each every city has huge buildings, everywhere is under construction, a lot of cities have very advanced metro or BRT system, the public transportation is awesome.
Although it's weird that the government is so powerful to get rid of all the motor cycles in Guangzhou, the streets look exactly like US which filled with expensive cars.
I have been to a lot of places this time in China, even villages, the roads are really wide and have good quality. The highways are also new and in good shape, but I heard it's quite expensive and there are not so many cars in some of the routes.
There is no train in China has no AC, but they sell tickets with no seats (with the same price as tickets with seats), for long distance, they also sell tickets for seats (besides sleepers) which you can't lie down and sleep. Since we only bought the tickets two or three days ago, tickets with seats (and above) already sold out, for 15, 16 hours' night journey, we had to stand or sit on the ground, the best scenarios was that we were capable to sit and sleep for the whole night, obviously there were many more miserable people compared to us.
All the things government made or sponsored, are grand, golden, shiny and awesome, you don't see slums no where, very clean streets, no poor people are capable to be seen. Feels like China is not a place for poor people anymore, which confuses me because according to the statistics, China is still a developing country with huge poverty.
In China indeed women work everywhere, means, in all kinds of professions and positions. In public, almost everywhere from cities to villages, you can see half women half men working or traveling. Although it's always crowded, people won't take your advantages and keep well manners, normal people are generally quite helpful and humble, sometimes more helpful and nice than some officiers.
Indeed, it could be because that there are police forces, cameras everywhere in public places. Police cars are at least Honda accord !
There is no small bribe in need for the lowest level of execution, official works were easily and efficiently done for us. The police arrived in 3, 4 minutes, let us get into their car and drove us around searching for hotel or street cameras to identify the taxi we took that day while we lost our passports; after whole afternoon's search we still couldn't find anything, the police also gave us a police report without asking us for any bribe. Momo got her new passport within 3 days, then her dad delivered the new passport which would be expired in 2020 to Guangzhou within 1 day so that she can apply for her US visa together with me in Guangzhou while I was waiting for my exit visa.
I have lived in Singapore for two months, I thought the girls there wear the shortest, after seeing China, I think Chinese women are the ones who wear the shortest compare to the other parts of the world... Of course you would see young girls wear short skirts or pants in the west, but you could only see women at the age of 30 to 50 who have kids with them, wearing very very short dresses while shopping or walking in the street. This is weird and made me uncomfortable.
Chinese society is insensitive to women, most of women are not treated as what they deserve, according to me, women's social role is really special since each woman is a potential mother who would give birth to babies and raise them up with her own blood and sweat, the whole society should respect each every woman just because of this. However in China, I didn't see this point, for example, they played dirty joke videos in public while no passengers complained, they shouted at anybody who looks poor, no matter man or woman, some of them shouted at Momo and insulted her with weird questions which made me very uncomfortable even I didn't understand fully, as for me, I would say this shows non respect towards women.
Definitely, China is not a place for poor, although I am from India where Chinese people generally know nothing about it except the poverty, people dare not to treat me bad since I study in the US. I saw officiers shouted at poor looking elders like shouting at dogs.
Ok, got to go now, actually I opened this Chinese Sina blog (http://blog.sina.com.cn/feimoyu21) to write about all that happened, this afternoon I was trying to transfer all the articles into this blog since Sina has the power to delete any of my article or my whole account for no reason.
Sorry that not all the content I wrote and am going to write is in English (since I realized that Chinese written articles were more urgently needed to change some people's mind)...
There are so many "draft" articles in my dashboard, both Chinese and English, all half written or with a start.
Was trying to write all the time, however once it stopped somewhere, I couldn't find it back anymore.
Same to the flow of thoughts: always having loads of thoughts and always reminding myself to write them down while still in my mind; cause once the time passes, they would just all slip away.
So maybe I should get over writing long articles... now I see why Twitter becomes so popular.
No matter what will come and stop me today, I will definitely publish this article, even without anything special.
I think I just have too much to say (write) most of the time. I am flowing with the time, my mind is changing each second by knowing more facts, reading more articles, talking to more people and leading my own way of life (unpredictable).
Just like a baby exploring the surroundings by smelling and tasting every item, I wish I also grow like a baby, an old baby :)
Angela, also a Chinese girl who is having an Indian boyfriend, turns out to be a Fu Jian rooted girl, our hometown is just few hundred kilometers away. But she is from QINGHUA U....the top one university in China, mine is only one of the 20 tops hehehe...but I love my Xiamen University a lot :P
Ohh, the more ridiculous thing is.... Angela's Indian boyfriend...is...also from IIT KGP !!!! Same institute, even the same department as Raj ... just that Raj is two years junior...and Sushant (Angela's boyfriend) knows Debu Da and Suma... How come they never know each other, they guys (but not us girls) should find each other first... Right now Angela and Sushant are both studying at Northwestern Grad Student (east part of US).
Angela actually got to know me because of the article incident happened to me in year 2009...and Angela found my website somehow...see I'm such an extrovert girl...leave my paw prints here and there... :P
Recently Angela and I have discovered that there are actually loads of Chindian couples around the globe, and Chindian babies are supposed to be the most beautiful and smart babies among all the babies....hahahah....
Here are some pictures:
And this is Chindian brother and sister :D
This is too Chindian brother and sister !!!
And some more pictures of Chindian couples:
And this is Angela and Sushant :D
Ohh.... also Raj and me....hihihihihi
I am such a kid who loves candies, now this time the god gave me a candy which could last forever... It seems that I would live in "yaaaaa"s, "yeeeee"s and "ohyeahhhhh"s for the rest of my life....
I wrote something in Chinese this morning, not as happy as what I always write in English.
It's just that I'm a very moody and fluctuated girl, sometimes extremely pessimistic, sometimes extremely optimistic, when I'm sad, I'm extremely sad, when I'm high, I'm extremely high, when I'm hungry, I eat extremely large amount of food. In short, all the animal emotions are having their extreme terms in me.
So guys don't worry about me, I'm a tough angry crazy Chinese young lady who has very strong arms and legs, and trying to grow a strong heart too... :) And thank you so much (Angela) for your special support !!! I love ya :)
Today is the Earth Day, Raj and I don't celebrate it, because we live in Earth Day almost everyday. We don't have a car, we use man force transportation - bicycle and feet; I scold Raj very hard for leaving lights or water not switched off immediately after usage; we don't use too much heater if it's not truly necessary (also for the bills); and we don't eat beef and pork, only chicken once a week maximum; we never take unnecessary medicine like vitamin ABCDE or fish oil. The only thing is we travel by flight quite often since right now both of us live in a foreign country.
So my friends, please don't just celebrate the Earth Day for 24 hours and forget about it for the other 364 days, the life style of Americans is not sustainable for the planet, and now the Chinese and the other developing countries' people are following up in a even worse pace. Be tough for yourselves and always be aware that maybe our mother earth is reaching her limit, if our generation don't change the trend, things could be out of control.
Ok, I am going to enjoy my orange we bought in Whole Food for $0.49/lb...I love orange so much that at least I would eat 3 oranges at the same time...
Today's headline: Raj and Momo fall in love with getting tanned on the beach...
Well, this is not actually a news and is not so great cause a yellow and a brown who love to burn themselves on the sand shouldn't use the verb "tan", but "blacken".
OK, toady's real headline: Amanda got into one of the Ivy League institutions - Columbia University, graduate school, Latin America studies.
Amanda is the first mutual friend of Raj and me (it was also because Amanda went back home for weekend so that Raj found out an empty room... anyways...), we all spent an unbelievable summer in Berkeley I-House, year 2008. For kids like Raj and I who come from loud and crowded countries like India and China, Amanda is different from what the American girls "should be" according to American soaps and movies. What is the difference? I can't accurately describe, but I love the sincere way she treats her friends, I love her messy dorm, I love her talkative and energetic Philipiono mom and the backyard farm they have.
Somehow I envy a lot their little farm at backyard. Amanda's parents are taking care of all kinds of vegetables, they are also feeding about 15 chickens and collecting their eggs...The vegetables and eggs come from their farm are so different from the ones in supermarket, no matter labeled "organic" or not, they are fresher, greener, goldener and juicer.
Last time Mrs. Bradshaw brought us a box of fresh eggs from her farm, this made me so happy because my mom also loves to buy me "local eggs" (土鸡蛋) from farms where chickens have standing life and successful crow. Industrialization, even eggs are industrialized...Anyways, so each time when I opened the box, I touched each one of the eggs very carefully, picked up one, smelled it, since this could bring me back to my childhood memories when I was playing around with cats dogs crickets and carpenter worms at my grandma's garden.
This is beloved Amanda cuddling her beloved chicken.
Mrs. Bradshaw and I are making spring rolls - Philipiono style :)
It is indeed a fruitful season, dozens friends are admitted by more than one top universities worldwide. I-house gangsters Shailabh, Suman, Gourab, Raj's other friends from IIT and Bokaro. Although I don't really know all the details, also they still need some more time to make the final decision, I would like to say congratulations to all of them :)
Raj's friends are mostly top ranked engineers in India even the whole world, if possible, lots of them would love to get out of India for different reasons, temporarily or permanently. It is almost the same situation in China. Recent years more and more scientists and engineers went back to China since the Chinese economics's ability of absorbing talents has improved. I wish India is embracing the same progress so that these smart ass IITians could actually pay some more valuable tributes back to India other than direct foreign investments.
But somehow, I am more worried about China in the sense of absorbing talents besides scientists and engineers, for example, independent journalists, film makers, writers and artists. Ironically, it is usually this kind of "idle" people who give history a big kick once a while. Can China move in the right direction without consulting them? Can China stubbornly maintain the same attitude towards them? How long it would last? I wish within my life time, I could find out the answers.
Ohh, and our summer plan !
China and India !!
Would be my second time to visit India and Raj's first time to visit China. There are already a few Raj's friends have confirmed that they would come and join us in New Delhi and around. Yeeeeee, I am so excited to meet them and see Delhi with them !!!
For Raj, I would most probably show him Xia Men, the very fine city at the coast, take him to eat a lot the Chinese food and I won't forget to show my Chinese lady friends the rare animal - an Indian boyfriend.
Besides lying on the sunny beach, dancing with crazy Indian people, surfing the internet from our cozy apartment (with a heater while it's windy outside) is also a luxury in my life, especially when my reading and editing preference is having effect on some readers.
Everything has its own price, for me, doing the things I like or being with the people I love has its highest price than other things in my life. I have seen a lot of giving-ups, it's called "being practical or realistic". I seem like driving my life train in an opposite direction, never tasted the so-called success as being in strong financial position or strong social position (like my finance department peers back in Xiamen U). But the surprising thing is, I am feeling good (if not moody). Maybe after all we are just human beings, the happiness mainly comes from the things which touch your heart, such as the things you like to do or the people you love.
I never know the taste of success after giving up the man I love, but right now I am feeling the happiness of being with the man I love, and because of the choice, now I have the chance to make my own career out of the things I truly like to do. See, I am redefining the word "success" in my own way no matter what the society told me.
Maybe sometimes most of the people are blind, but the majority keeps accusing the sober ones to make them feel that they are wrong, you never know...
The only truth is: you have to be tough and have faith in yourself !
I am grateful for the people who encouraged me, there are not many and I will remember them one by one, one sentence by one sentence. It's also kinda like building up a psychological community myself, I will tag this community as "sober", adjust the definition through experience and time, and use it as a lighthouse for my life journey in the sea.
But you know, I am also very happy to be around with different people even the ones who disagree, they are also the colors of my life :)
Talking about color, it's Holi time!!!
Spring break we went to Standford for Holi. Standford's Holi is the biggest Holi celebration also one of the biggest Indian affairs in bay area, thousands came, well organized and Indian family involved, guess there are just too many Indians living around Standford and Silicon Valley. Here are some pictures:
My first Holi !!!
seeeee... evidence !!!!! see the horrible horrible couple... Bros in Standford: Nishank and Madhur!!! Me being colored !! :D As Raj says: the two people change the world. (changed and will change hopefully:) yoooo Standford bros :) See the crazy Indians ....!!! This is where we got the colors :)
The crazy Indian guys jumped into the freezing Standford fountain after dancing with colors... :) Indians are crazy, I LOVE them :)
Also we went to the Berkeley Holi yesterday. Berkeley Holi was very nice as well, more of a student's affair, less people due to the limited space but more awesome dances. As you can see, Holi everywhere !!! :) Here are some pictures:
See Raj and crazy Sravan :)
That is me riding on Raj's neck!!! :D hehehhe Raj --> traditional Indian dancer That was before we were colored :) People getting high :)
Berkeley bro Debu Da is carrying his friend... :)
And during the spring break Raj drove me to Santa Crutz !!
After 6 hour beginner's training, Raj decided to drive me to Santa Cruz beaches for a one day trip, also a part of his driving practice to get a license. I haven't checked how the road would be, when we arrived at Pacific Highway 1, I got totally scared...
see the beautiful views.....
this is when we crash into the flowers
The fact is even experienced drivers would be very careful when they drive on Pacific Highway 1, no need to mention Raj, who had never drove any car before. He did a lot of "too much right", "too middle", "too sudden stop" for the first half an hour, severe enough to make me start screaming.....and then, I suddenly found out what "the most beautiful highway" really is.....
The world's most ridiculous couple in the world's most shockingly beautiful highway....
After all, Raj is a very talented driver so that we didn't crash into the Pacific, just got horned by loads of cars. And of course after my non-stop Chinglish shouting of "slow down", "too sudden turns","more steady", Raj figured out that he should adjust his vision a little bit further...
So somehow we arrived, saw the hidden beach, got tanned and had some fun :P And on the way back home, Raj already became an experienced driver who doesn't need my shout...