Tuesday, April 17, 2018

北京媳妇在印度--百度印度吧吧主事件存档

因为有对具体事件前后详细追踪的调查新闻癖,于是把整个事件从我个人的视角记录下来,不发在国内因为早已在心里翻页,不想继续引起争端。只是存个档,做为给自己的一个交代。

**在微博上指出“北京媳妇在印度”即为当年百度印度吧吧主













**“北京媳妇在印度”主动承认







**引起中印恋姐妹圈不小唏嘘,很多姐妹之前都因此承受过痛苦,以下是一些跟进的回应,大部分人反应账号被她拉黑,我也收到她发来的威胁





































**4月13日

在知乎发但帖子被他们恶性举报,结果真的被知乎隐藏起来,于是便罢了没有再做跟进。以下是知乎事件截图和被删原文



这个女孩早在06、07年开始就以BJcutie这个名字出没在百度印度吧,因为她是做从印度进口纱丽到中国卖的生意的。当年的百度印度吧完全就是乌烟瘴气,全是一边倒的恒河浮尸和几百印度人爬火车的类似帖子和照片。当时常年置顶百度印度吧的是她写的"忠告中国女孩千万不能嫁到印度"的帖子,阅读量极大,内容危言耸听,说"印度男人会满街追着摸女人","没有印度男人不打老婆","印度小孩都是小流氓、婆家都是大流氓"。

09年我找了印度男友后去网上搜索有关印度的资料,看到的都是源自于百度印度吧的此类言论。告诉父母后,他们和亲戚也上网搜,很长一段时间都因为这些不实信息撕心裂肺、彻夜不眠。我的家人因为我的选择以及中国网络上印度的言论受到了极大的伤害。但在家人的反对声中我和印度男友最终还是私奔走到了一起,过了多年之后父母才不得不同意。

因为受到偏颇言论不小的影响,那时的我也试着在百度印度吧发一些比较中肯的言论,比如传达"我的印度男友很正直"这样的讯息。但是做为百度印度吧吧主的BJcutie,也就是现在的北京媳妇,一手遮天,任何一点关于印度的非负面信息一律被删除干净,连着帐号一起被封。不止是我的遭遇,2006至2013年间交往过印度男友并与百度印度吧打过交道的中国女孩都遭到了在吧里被集体辱骂、删贴、封号的命运。

今天来知乎发帖是因为看到楼主告诫年轻女孩不要相信她的,认为嫁去印度是美好童话。其实她的微博我没有那么仔细地研究,看了楼主的帖子才明白她的深意。我自己是嫁到印度的女孩没错,但是印度的嫁妆制度和印度女性社会地位真的是和中国差了太多。这么多年看过来,全世界范围内中国女性的社会地位是非常靠前的,不可否认,我自己大大受益。

我经常有写一些关于印度女性地位、嫁妆制度、包办婚姻之类的文章。特贴于此,希望女孩们谨慎小心。我觉得印度是个充满复杂性的社会,重精神重文化,在其社会可以看到最先进与最古老、最圣洁与最龌龊、最高尚与最低俗、最精神与最物质等种种矛盾并存,而且有时肩并着肩存在,无论是个体还是集团,都具有非常大的特性、独特性。所以真的不能一概而论,更不能因为利益的驱使不负责任地去盲目引导和教唆不知者。

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我看印度女性地位
2018年4月5日
今早印度奶奶发现快没有白糖了,因为我们平时是在Costco买大包的,所以不急着到家附近的零售店买新的,想等有机会去Costco再说。对于每天喝无数杯不成比例地加三四把糖的红茶的印度奶奶来讲,这可是个不小的危机,要是今晚仅剩的一点糖都吃完了怎么办?但是她心态很好,立马就能开出玩笑来:“没事没事,仅剩的一点白糖给宝贝们喝牛奶用,奶奶和妈妈(只配)用不好的糖,坏糖归奶奶和妈妈专属。”这“坏糖”指的是印度人做甜品用的没有加工过的原糖,像石头一样一大块,我反而觉得没漂白过的更纯更天然。

印度奶奶经常会在不经意间流露出这种语气,似乎孩子们就应该理所当然获得最好的,有什么不好吃的就应该归母亲吃。她对我的孩子是这种态度还无所谓,在我和我孩子面前对她自己已成年的儿子有这种态度,我心里就会暗自不爽。这不爽也是这么多年看得多了累积下来的。

我婆婆对公公尊称了一辈子的“您”,公公对婆婆贱称了一辈子的“你”,即便我公公在家底、学历、脾气、心态、涵养等各方面都差我婆婆不少,还完全没有做生意的头脑,一辈子基本上没有带家人摆脱贫困的底层生活,最终还在2009年至2013年间因管理不善和通货膨胀亏了将近一百万人民币这么一大笔。硬是那几年还没有过门的我和靠读书来美国的Raj把辛辛苦苦赚来的美元一笔一笔地打过去救济,家才没有破,到现在都还在慢慢帮着还。就这样我公公却经常因为一点小事比如我婆婆对一些事情有自己的看法,稍微评论了两句,就对她大发雷霆,很难听的话都骂得出来,说什么“你傻逼女人傻了一辈子,叫你不要插话你就给我闭嘴,这些事是你傻逼女人管的吗?”

几次在印度家住的时候我都听得一惊一乍的。我婆婆总是默不作声地躲在一边,息事宁人,一副被骂了一辈子骂惯了的感觉。她还常教育我要以和为贵,夫妻间吵架是常事,但是不能太经常吵、吵太凶了,会影响到孩子们的健康心理。这些是对的道理没错,但是我看公公和婆婆根本不是吵架,而每次都是公公单方面的炸锅和训斥,婆婆总是以“你公公年轻的时候受了大伤后走路瘸了脾气也变坏了”、“你公公是为了这个家,他心是很好很顾家的”种种理由为他推脱。也是为了孩子们的心理和教育,这一辈子过来我婆婆都在暗自承受。

我婆婆脑子里对吃这件事情也有个大坑,我总感觉她认为她自己多吃就等同于贪婪,等同于精神不强大意志不坚定,看到与她同等身份的女人多吃了也会有一定排斥感。后来我看到了这个坑是印度社会女 人的通病,因为在资源稀缺的社会里,集体生活中最先被剥夺与压迫的是女人,不分年龄,从幼童到老妇。吃的不够的话,“没用”的女人理所当然要少吃,等家里的顶梁柱男人和未来的顶梁柱儿子都吃饱了,才轮到女人吃点剩的,这是女人应该要有的妇德。

在印度家里住的时候,公公和成年的孩子们集体坐好,没事人儿一样集体聊着天。“妈,饭端上来!” 于是动作很慢的婆婆就一盘一盘地把他们每个人的饭菜舀好,送到跟前桌子上。“妈,给我打杯水来!” 于是婆婆又放下盘子找到杯子打杯水来放到面前。“咦,怎么没有腌菜?你们妈妈动作真慢呐!” “妈动作慢了一辈子了哈哈!”于是婆婆又放下勺子找到腌菜去打一小盘来。等全家人都吃饱喝足了,婆婆把盘子都收进厨房了,自己才站着靠着随便吃一点,那时饭菜已经都完全凉掉了。所以我婆婆早已习惯了吃冷的饭菜,在我们家用微波炉热菜常常半冷不热就端给我孩子们吃。幸好公公婆婆家里养了两个女儿,而且他们都是极善良的人,他们对我这个儿媳妇也还真是当女儿对待,从来没有使唤过我一次,我要帮忙也总是被劝停。

所以我一听到婆婆对公公毕恭毕敬地喊着:“您好啊您好啊,今天您吃了什么啊?今天您身体还舒服吗?”心里就非常不爽。我一看到Raj明明自己闲着没事,还要让忙着做饭的母亲给希娃端杯水就立马狠抽他。他对他母亲使唤惯了是从小从他父亲那里耳濡目染传下来的,一时半会儿真改不掉,但他明白我和他之间除了平等只有平等,唯有这样才能维系住感情。不过我还是会动不动用各种方式提醒他,“我不是你母亲啊,你可别不小心随便使唤我,在孩子们面前树立负面形象,以防孩子们以后被他们朋友嘲笑!”

印度还是个非常传统的社会,其社会的经济构架还没有完成现代化的转型,加上以社会司职来划分的种姓制度在不同的统治时期都被刻意固化了,不少旧有的工业和社会分工在当地依然很兴旺。在旧的经济构架下,无一例外的都是男主外女主内,祖上传下的家业必定是靠男人的血脉,爷爷传爸爸传儿子,女人只在家庭结构中起着服侍全家和传宗接代的作用,经济上依附于男人,拿人家的手短,生活也就没有独立性。相比而言,现代化的经济构架从对人肌肉的要求转变成了对头脑的要求,不管男女,只要接受过好的教育,就可以胜任同样的职业,因为男女在身体强度方面差很多,却在智商上均等。一旦女性参与到社会性的增值中,经济上的独立便是女性建立起独立人格,建立起与男性平等的社会结构的钥匙。

其实从全球范围来看,整个人类都经历过或在经历着从父系氏族慢慢向男女平等转型的过程,只不过有的地方快些,有的地方慢些。过去几百年完成了工业革命,经济完成了向现代化转型,没有受过侵略的欧洲就最快。欧洲女人闹了两百多年,从最开始烧胸衣烧裙子,到争取工作权争取选举权,现在还是要不停地提不断地在改进和完善。比如现在西方女权界讨论的话题是类似于“孩子的图画书为什么男主人公的多?给女孩子看的书呢?凭什么女孩子就只能做公主不能当科学家?”“为什么给女人做的裤子就没有口袋或者口袋那么小,怎么装智能手机?凭什么男人就可以有大大的裤子口袋女人就不可以?”这样的话题。而过去几百年完全失去了自我演进的权利却被殖民被剥削、刚刚才独立了几十年社会依然在整合、工业化现代化也步子较慢的印度,女权的发展自然就落后别人一大截。

那有朋友问,为什么中国在民国的时候女人还裹着小脚,不到一百年之后情况就出现了这么大的改观?我觉得这个要归根于中国文化的统一性,导致整个社会的任何改变都可以达到迅雷不及掩耳之速,直接原因是西方文化的滲入、删除传统的运动、“女人半边天”和计划生育,这里面坑太大,就不赘述了。我觉得只要不把现有的良好状态当成理所当然,而是认真地去珍惜,明白我们仍然要不断地去争取去完善,绝对不能走回头路,这就够了。

做为两个孩子的母亲,脑子里考虑的所有事情最后都会做为怎样教育孩子的参考,我也曾一度陷入了以怎样的姿态做母亲的矛盾中。以前我曾认为是因为东方社会传统价值观里母亲心甘情愿的牺牲,才成就了孩子的无私之心。但是在印度这个如此重宗教,如此讲究精神追求的地方,为什么在个体家庭中存在着那么多的不公与暴力?这显露出的人性的贪婪与自私,似乎与其社会的宗教性格格不入。后来我明白了,正是因为印度社会女性地位依然低下,孩子在人生最初的家庭教育里学到的是建立在性别上的不公正与对女性亲人各项权利理所当然的剥夺,这样长大的孩子,怎么可能无私呢?所以我认为要想培养出心灵美好的孩子,绝对不能单方面要求母亲做没有底线的牺牲,而是在母亲与父亲地位平等的前提下,两方父母都能做出取舍和牺牲,这样才会给孩子树立起正确的价值观。

这几天看微博上对印度的种姓制度津津乐道,我认为种姓已经是马上就要被翻过去的历史一页,印度社会发展进步的真正桎梏,是占这个社会一半的人力资源被随意践踏、任意剥削,无法释放出在现代经济构架下该有的能量。印度社会女性地位一日得不到提高,其社会各项发展也会成为泡影。而一旦其女性的能量通过教育和政府、社会团体的扶持得到释放,会给社会各方面增添很大的活力。社会总是在进步的,因为在历史的战火和硝烟中,平等和自由是永恒不变的人类之歌。共勉。

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3月5日微博
前几天有个中国女孩找我聊天说她处了一年的印度男友花她的钱买了很多东西带回印度后与家庭包办的印度女孩闪婚了,男孩之前还挺实在地告诉过她按他这种家庭和学历,随便在印度找个女方家都要给至少100万人民币的嫁妆。我对她说:"哇,你这是破财消灾啊,阿弥陀佛,还好他是印度人无法轻易和你结婚。不然被骗婚后你逃都逃不出来,苦一辈子,就像他新婚妻子的悲惨命运,可怜了她完全无自主权,被迫嫁入这样的家庭!" 我觉得谈恋爱阶段就会向女人要钱的男人不管是哪国人,嘴巴一张第二天就要打包行李跑路,等到他拿"自己和别的女人结婚就会拿到100万"这种话来给你施压的时候都已经太晚了。

大家看我的家庭还算是比较幸福,那是因为碰到了正直的印度人,Raj他有责任感道德感,善良热心,父母也是正直得一塌糊涂,这是我当初在一起的时候所追求的---一颗金子一样的心。从这么多年的观察来看,不是所有人都这样,反而是各种陷阱重重,花言巧语的烟雾弹很多。所以想请在和印度人接触的中国姐妹们一定要多个心眼,要多对他进行各方面的考量和审视。毕竟以后要经历很多充满牺牲与坎坷的异国恋,一定要保证他的人品够正派,心灵纯真到可以让你放逐自己。

之前就写过这些话,下面把《中印恋人如何说服印度方父母》里面的一些话单独摘出来,给姐妹们提个醒:

"在印度有很大一部分婚嫁依然还是父母包办。传统的包办婚姻就像是双方家长在做生意,女方家长以女为贱,不仅要把辛苦养大的人交过去为男家生男娃传宗接代,为他们全家做饭洗衣端茶倒水,省去了男方家里雇小工的钱,女方家里还要为此支付一大笔嫁妆。嫁妆数目多大,怎么个支付法,在婚前两方家庭都要商榷好,达不成协议婚也结不成。男方家里吹眉瞪眼为了多拿几千卢比的例子举不胜举。所以很多男孩子家里坚决不同意儿子自由恋爱,其实说白了是为了赚这一笔嫁妆钱。男孩越是学历高家里能开到的价格就越高,比如像Raj这样印度理工学院的毕业生,愿意支付上百万人民币现金做嫁妆的女方家长排长队等着接亲。

这是碰到了贪婪邪恶的婆家。有可能出现在教育水平低的印度人家里,也有可能在公婆都接受过高等教育的家里,有可能是低种姓家庭,也有可能是高种姓家庭,和家庭的贫富也没有关系。这样的家庭在印度不算少数,如果不幸碰到了,不管男孩再帅嘴巴再甜学历再高,记住要停下来重新审视一番。因为嫁印度男人不单单是嫁给他,还嫁给了他的全家老小。如果男孩子的确人品正直,宽容慷慨,有自己做主的魄力,还可以考虑继续。如果男孩子经常对父母的无理要求妥协,即便是冲破阻力完婚,婚后其父母有可能因为当初损失了一大笔嫁妆收入而耿耿于怀,挑拨儿子与媳妇的夫妻关系,鸡犬不宁。印度每年因为婆家怀恨于嫁妆不厚而烧死儿媳的案子接连不断。我想女方支付嫁妆这个恶俗一日不改,印度女性对平等权益的诉求就枷锁难脱。
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前几天听我婆婆讲她学校里一个女老师,儿子已经在德里自由恋爱找了老婆,生活在一起育有两个女儿。这个女老师和老公却执意隐瞒情况,骗了个包办的儿媳妇来,收了人家家里丰厚的嫁妆,逼儿子回来与这个包办的儿媳妇完婚。儿子回来把婚结了,儿媳妇生了个孙子,现在儿子又回到德里去和自己选的老婆住了。这个女老师把骗来的儿媳妇反锁在家里,不让她出门,不给零用钱,家里的食物每天做好记号怕她乱吃,自己天天提着家里的钥匙和厚厚的钱袋子去学校上课。我听得一惊一乍的,但婆婆说她见过的类似例子不少,因为女性地位一直低下,政府思维古旧、执法不利,明明知道这种行为触犯了各种法律,许多人依然大胆地下手。我们还讨论说,虽说女老师和她老公行为卑劣,他们的儿子也是个恶人,为什么要同意父母的决定回来成婚呢,他如果执意不肯,留在德里,他的父母又能拿他怎么样呢?女方家里没有看到新郎,怎么可能会同意成婚呢?这宗罪,是父母、儿子,他们全家人联手犯下的。"



(请原谅当时年轻的我竖中指这种"艺术行为",但当时的百度印度吧快照现在看来着实珍贵,算是中国网络上因为百度印度吧一手遮天而使公众对印度一无所知、言论一边倒的一段历史的记录吧。感谢现在多种媒体的兴起,微博、知乎、微信等等,网络上有了更多不同角度不同立场的报道,使我们对邻国印度渐渐有了更多客观的了解和认知,产生了更多有意义的讨论与争议。)

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 2018年4月10日添加 

很感谢大家中肯的评论,感觉知乎上的水平不愧是高。正是因为大家的平和,带动着我也静下心来反思和思考。 没错大家发现了我的博客截图内容其实是带着戾气的,在微博上我有提到因为心境的改变,自己几年前就把这些比较负气的博文悄悄隐藏起来了,因为不希望把这种负面情绪传达给网友。大家仔细看可以看到文章标题左上角的小锁。之前在知乎上忘记告知了。

是这样的,很多自己几年前发的感想,现在已经完全看不下去,觉得那时实在是非常偏颇和偏激。那时偶尔也会去拉黑一些来评论的网友,现在想来非常幼稚,自己不待见的行为自己却在做。几年前开始就对自己定下规矩,不管别人怎么评论,不许拉黑任何人,希望在自己这里可以看到两边的讨论甚至争论。 回想起来,自己当时的心态应该和那几年现实生活中没有得到双方家长认同有关,心态不平和就觉得什么听起来都刺耳,谁都是敌人。很感激生活的善待,也是因为自己和印度先生的不放弃,最终圆满完成中国和印度的婚礼,心境好了很多,自然也平和了下来。

 另外还有一条线是对印度的认知的加深。从最开始的"距离产生美"的对一个社会精神性的盲目崇拜,到后来每一次游走印度的一点一点更多的了解和体会,特别是在深入接触印度女性社会地位这个话题之后,到现在不禁推翻了自己"物质可能不一定是上层建筑的基础?"的疑问。 人的认知肯定是在不断加深和完善的,现在我无法直视十年前的想法和言论,说不定十年后的自己对现在的一些想法也是无法直视。我觉得能做到以坦然的心态,诚实地面对自己,保证此时此刻说的话都无愧于事实和内心就够了。

经常有对过去进行反思,并且分享出来给网友。并没有完全把过去隐藏,也不怕被别人看到,反而觉得自己心态的这样一个转变过程是蛮宝贵的一种记录,大背景除了自身故事的发展,更是网络的开放度在提高、人们对印度的兴趣在提高、人们对更加全面客观的印度认知的热情在提高。

 谢谢大家的关注,也衷心感谢大家的指正。共勉。

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

Did the British Give India Political Unity? (By Shashi Tharoor) - 1

From book "An Era of Darkness: The British Empire in India" by Shashi Tharoor

Part one

The British like to point out, in moments of self-justifying exculpation, that they deserve credit for the political unity of India - that very idea of 'India' as one entity (now three, but one during the British Raj) instead of multiple warring principalities and statelets, is the unchallengeable contribution of British imperial rule.

It is difficult to refute that proposition except with a provable hypothesis: that throughout the history of subcontinent, there has existed an impulsion for unity. This was manifest in the several kingdoms throughout India history that sought to extend their reach across all of the subcontinent: the Maurya (322 BCE - 185 BCE), Gupta (at its peak, 320 - 550 CE), and Mughal (1526 - 1827 CE) empires, and to a lesser extent, the Vijayanagara kingdom in the Deccan (at its peak 1136 - 1565 CE) and the Maratha confederacy (1674 - 1818 CE). Every period of disorder throughout Indian history has been followed by a centralizing impulse, and had the British not been the first to take advantage of India's disorder with superior weaponry, it is entirely possible that an Indian ruler would have accomplished what the British did, and consolidated his rule over most of the subcontinent.

The same impulse is also manifest in Indians' vision of their own nation, as in the ancient epics the Mahabharata and the Ramayana, which reflect an 'idea of India' that twentieth century nationalists would have recognized. The epics have acted as strong, yet sophisticated, threads of Indian culture that have woven together tribes, languages, and people across the subcontinent, uniting them in their celebration of the same larger-than-life heroes and heroines, whose stories were told in dozens of translations and variations, but always in the same spirit and meaning. The landscape, for instance, as their travels throughout it demonstrated, and through their tale, Indians speaking hundreds of languages and thousands of dialects in all the places names in the epic, enjoyed a civilizational unity. Lord Rama's journey through India and his epic battle against the demon-king of Lanka reflect the same national idea.

After all, India has enjoyed cultural and geographical unity throughout the ages, going back at least to Emperor Ashoka in the third century BCE. The vision of Indian unity was physically embodies by the Hindu sage Adi Shankara, who travelled from Kerala in the extreme south to Kashmir in the extreme north and from Dwarka in the west to Puri in the east, as far back as the seventh century after Christ, establishing temples in each of these places that endure to this day. Diana Eck's writings on India's 'sacred geography' extensively delineate ancient idea of a political unity mediated through ideas of sacredness. As Eck explains: 'Considering its long history, India has had but a few hours of political and administrative unity. Its unity as a nation, however, has been firmly constituted by the sacred geography it has held in common and revered: its mountains, forests, rivers, hilltop shrines... linked with the tracks of pilgrimage.;

Nor was this oneness a purely 'Hindu' idea. The rest of the world saw India as one: Arabs, for instance, regarded the entire continent as 'al-Hind' and all Indians as 'Hindi', whether they hailed from Punjab, Bengal or Kerala. The great nationalist Maulana Azad once remarked upon how, at the Haj, all Indians were considered to be from one land, and regarded themselves as such. Surely such impulses, fulfilled in those distant times by emperors and sages, would with modern transport, communications and far-sighted leaders, have translated themselves into political unity?

Starting from these incontrovertible facts, it is possible to construct an alternative scenario to British colonialism in the late eighteenth and early nineteenth centuries, with the Marathas extending their conquests across the country, while finding it politically convenient to mast their power under a titular Mughal emperor, a process that had already begun. Though the Marathas would have ruled the country under the nominal overlordship of a weak Mughal monarch (as the British themselves were briefly to do), this would have led to an inevitable transition to constitutional rule, just as England transitioned (with the seventeenth -century Glorious Revolution and the subsequent strengthening of the House of Commons) from an absolute monarchy to a constitutional monarchy. This could have happened in India just as it did in several other countries in the non-colonized world, across Europe and in the handful of Asian countries that were not colonized notably China, Japan and Thailand. The process would not have been painless; there may well have been revolutions and military struggles; there would have been disruption and conflict; but India's resources would have stayed in India and its future would have been resolved by its own people. The onset of British colonialism interrupted this natural evolution and did not allow it to flower. But to suggest that Indian political unity would not have happened without the British is absurd and unsupported by the evidence.

Counterfactuals are, of course, impossible to prove. One cannot assert, for instance, with any degree of certitude, events that did not in fact occur, nor name that centralizing figure who might have been India's Bismarck, Mazzini, Ataturk or Garibaldi in the absence of the British. But historical events find their own dramatics personae, and it is unreasonable to suggest that what happened everywhere else would not have happened in India. From such an initially hybrid system could have emerged a modern constitutional monarchy and political institutions built upon the Mughal administrative system, as modified by the Marathas. But these are hypotheticals. The British came, and no such non-colonial India emerged.

Counterfactuals are theoretical but facts are what they are, The facts point clearly to the dismantling of existing political institutions in India by the British, the fomenting of communal division and systematic political discrimination with a view to maintaining and extending British domination.

When the British eventually left in 1947, they left India as a functioning democracy, and many Britons would take credit for having instilled in their Indian subjects the spirit of democracy and the rule of law, even if Indians were denied its substance by the British. This claim is worth examining closely.

Sunday, October 8, 2017

Be aware of Indian e-tourist visa online application fraud

The wedding season in India (Nov and Dec 2017) and lunar new year in China (Feb 2018) is approaching, therefore we started planning the massive yearly travel out of California to India and China.

As an international family that father holds Indian passport, mother holds Chinese passport, two kids hold American passport, we have 8, 9 visas and travel documents to apply, so all four of us can enter each other's home country together. You do the maths! 

India has launched e-tourist visa on arrival 3 years back. You can fill out the forms online, pay online, after 3 days the visa will be sent out to your email. It's been a big convenience so far. But this time when I was applying for the e-visa, I fell in the trap of online fraud, let out all of the valuable identity information to fraud companies and almost lost hundreds of dollars.

Through the fake sites, I filled out all the information and paid 140 dollars as American applicant and 130 dollars as Chinese applicant. Luckily our credit card has fraud insurance, they refunded me for the lost and issued new card. As far as I know, if it was a Chinese credit card, the money will be gone forever.

Hours after I posted my story, dozen of my Chinese readers replied that they also almost fell into the trap, until they saw it charges 130 dollars (for Chinese citizen it's usually around 40 dollars), they dropped the application. But for American citizens, it does cost around 120 dollars for Indian e-tourist visa, that's why when I was paying to the fake site for 140 dollars, it didn't ring a bell.

I am using screenshot to show you how it happened, and please be aware when you are applying.

When searching "Indian visa online application", Google showed me four "ad" websites as the top result, all four of them are fake and frauds. 
       
Here is what they look like, all of them look official, and most of them also write "official" in preview. If people are not familiar with the trick of Google Adwords, if people can't recite the exact address of authentic site, how would they be able to identify the dozens of fake ones from the only and one authentic one? 










This is what the real official site looks like

As I was sending emails for enquiry, (I searched within my own email account because I applied before, so the enquiry email address is authentic), the Indian embassy personal replied:"All other website for the e-visa is fake." I am just wondering if they all know the truth, why there was no action against such obvious scandal?