Having a 21-year-old boyfriend, maybe the most significant difference between us is the amount of sleep we get. For him, it’s easily nine hours straight. For me, as I told him, "The last time I slept nine hours straight was when I had my gallbladder removed and the recovery followed. And that was a once-in-a-seven-year event since I entered adulthood (25+)." He laughed so hard and then went right ahead and had a good night (and morning)'s sleep.
Raj is planning to buy more diamond earrings, diamond belly rings, and diamond necklaces for me, his mom and sisters for Mother's Day. Meanwhile, my 21-year-old boyfriend just gave me some beautiful green stones as a gift and most likely we won't be celebrating Mother's Day together, even though he is closer to my kids by age than to me. It was his first time giving me a gift; I loved it, and Raj appreciated it. I told Raj, "Husband and boyfriend: different rocks, same love." Raj replied, "I appreciate it too - him always taking the time to make you happy." My young boyfriend does act and pay like a grown man when he takes me out on nighttime dates. 🥰
His favorite place has to be Harbin resort of natural hot springs. Nowadays, he goes there every weekend. He comes back to the Bay for "the most important event of the week" - our Monday solo date. Then the three of us do hot yoga together in Berkeley on Wednesdays, after which he heads back to Harbin for the rest of the week. He chills there, making friends with hippies, spiritual seekers, and the like. I'm very happy that he finally found a place that gives him a sense of belonging. After moving around as a child and feeling confused as a finance major during his Chicago undergrad, he is finally settling down a little and has made up his mind about where he wants to stay forever - the Bay Area.
He has made up his mind to unburden himself from the unrealistic expectation of becoming a corporate finance professional and instead follow his true passion to become a therapist; he finalized the Bay Area school where he would like to obtain his master's degree after finishing the 4th year undergrad in 2027; he figured out whether he would like to take the path of becoming a social worker for severely mentally ill prisoners or a conventional therapist with a Bay Area vibe; he is starting to make lifelong friends he enjoys spending his time with and learning from; he also met me - and all of that happened in Harbin, since November 2025. Of course, Harbin is his favorite place on Earth. Harbin is a historical and new hippie hub where most people soak in natural water naked, without inhibition, and deep in his soul, he is an old hippie who is incredibly talented at talking to people and dissecting their minds (maybe not always correct but he is only 21!)
My 21-year-old boyfriend told me that while they were in the natural spring water last weekend, his new friends - mostly older men in their late 30s, 40s, and 50s - were shocked to learn his age. They couldn't believe it and insisted that he was, in fact, 41 years old. I asked him, "Did you tell them you actually have a 41-year-old girlfriend?" Of course they wouldn't believe it; I was entirely deceived by his appearance and demeanor myself until it was too late. "I told you I don't have a kink for very young men/ boys!"
The dynamics between my 21-year-old boyfriend and me are incredibly "Bay Area" or Californian. We could both be categorized as bisexual, but in the sense of having physical intimacy with the same sex without the emotional connection. We both consider ourselves "in a sense non-binary" because of the boy inside of me and the girl inside of him. "So deep down, you're a little boy who loves me, the little girl, huh?" "Yeah!" I agreed. With all these dynamics, the unlimited possibilities for physical intimacy are beyond an ordinary person's imagination. On two completely separate occasions, separated by years and states, we picked out the exact same green-stone earrings. That's how weirdly similar we are. And he wore those beautiful dangling green-stone earrings the whole day, before I showed him mine later via text.
In both of our beliefs, we were both dolphins many lifetimes ago, and we always swam and played together in the same oceans. We don't care whether them dolphins were male, female, or non-binary; we just know that them dolphins were smart, kind, and extremely playful! We were connected to mother Earth in a fundamental way, we have always been and we will forever be!🐬🐬
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